SydBee Australia

"Love is old, love is new. Love is all, love is you."

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I have been so freaking emotional the past couple of days.

Or maybe everything is just sad.

I finished a book yesterday (Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close - I would recommend it although I found it somewhat contrived) and burst into tears. I walked into the kitchen and continued crying in front of my fiance (who kissed me, hugged me, then handed me the rest of the ice cream before going back to work so I could be sad longer).

Then I just finished watching The Fosters episode from today (if anyone follows the show, WHY THE FUCK WAS THAT NECESSARY) and started sobbing for like the last two minutes. I mean I swear to god I feel like I’m usually not this emotional but there was a lot of death in both the book and the tv show so maybe that’s it but idk man.

At least my fiance is pretty understanding. books and TV shows and movies make me cry and it does not freak him out. So yay.

Filed under this has been a post about nothing really just complaining about being super emotional spoiler the fosters extremely loud and incredibly close

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thriftorama:

Friends! Thrift-o-Rama is turning 2!

On July 25, 2012, I posted my first outfit of the day. It’s crazy to think two years have gone by. I’m so honored by the love, support and friendship I’ve found in you people. Thank you for reading Thrift-o-Rama. Thank you for celebrating bodies and thrift stores and lipstick with me. I don’t have words for how much you’ve all touched me, I really don’t.

The best way I know how to thank you is to give away a thrifty gift. The winner gets:

1. You’re in Luck Dress in Lady Bug, size 2X. This dress is no longer available at ModCloth, period. It’s beautifully made and would probably best fit a size 18-20. Maybe a 22 if you’re small in the bust. I wish I was keeping it, but it’s too big for me. Tried on but never worn. I’ve included some pictures of me in the same dress in a different print for fit reference. Message me for exact measurements and details on the dress itself.

2. A portrait! See above for an example of my art, though I won’t rush through yours as I did mine.

3. “Mystery Thrift Store Jewelry.” This will be a surprise. Various strange necklaces and earrings thrifted in my travels will be sent to you. I hope you like them. The winner can tell me if they have pierced ears or allergies and I’ll do my best to oblige.

Rules:

1. This is a gift to my followers. You must be following me.

2. US residents only, please. Sorry. International shipping is very very expensive. The winner needs to give me an address.

3. Likes and reblogs count, but you can only reblog once a day.

4. If the winner doesn’t respond within two days, I’ll pick someone else.

This giveaway ends Sunday, July 27th, 5PM central time, at which point a winner will be chosen at random.

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Some “inspiration” from Spark People…

fastandfleeting:

TW : eating disorders

sydneybunny:

"When you’re tough on yourself, life will be infinitely easier."

Um… WHAT?! What the fuck is that supposed to mean?

I’m sorry, but I spent an entire semester in therapy specifically because I was so tough on myself. What the hell kind of inspiration is that supposed to be? The “run yourself into the ground so you can be skinny and ‘healthy’” type inspiration? The kind that inspires eating disorders and anxiety and depression in people who never feel like they’re good enough because they’re always tough on themselves?

Now look, I’m all for holding yourself to a high standard, but I feel like shit like this makes people feel inadequate for listening to their bodies and trying to take care of themselves. It was this kind of mindset that led to my life falling apart by my sophomore year of college.

I know this is random, but sometimes I just feel the need to point out the idiocy in fitspo, health, and weight loss communities. I can’t stand this kind of talk, the kind that completely forgets things like self-care, mental health, and simply listening to your bodies needs.

Am I overthinking this? What are your thoughts?

I think you’re right about this! At least here in America we seem to really value hard work and the need to constantly make “progress”, especially to the point of sacrificing things that are important to you and to the point where you become mentally unwell. I think that mentality applies to all sorts of areas of life.

 For example, people will get praise for working 100 hours a week so they can make money, even if that person is obviously suffering from it. Like you were talking about in your post, there is also a popular mentality that being thin is the only way to be healthy, and that it should be striven for at all costs. I’ve seen thinspo/fitspo stuff pop up on my dashboard that has ACTUALLY SAID stuff like “don’t stop until you throw up” and other similar sayings.  Like, that’s pretty explicitly saying that thinness is more important than being well.  ”Progress” to the point of extreme personal sacrifice.

When you get wrapped up in reaching a specific goal, you lose sight of the path you take to achieve it.  You could reach a really unhealthy state really quickly.  And often, it’s not like we really consciously decide to get super self-critical. We’re influenced by our families, our peers, coaches, and powerful and pervasive media.  When we repeatedly get the message that we have to reach the next level no matter what, we end up really believing it.

On the same note, achieving good mental health doesn’t seem to be considered “progress.”  But it should! 

…so there are some of my thoughts.  Thanks for posting this!

Ugh, you’re 100% right about the American mindset. I was traveling abroad recently and one of the Bulgarian guys I met kept talking about “the stereotypical American” and when I asked him what that meant, he said it’s basically this idea of workaholic Americans, who work three jobs and never stop to eat or sleep or have fun and just spend all their time in this perpetual state of “next level” so to speak. Which is such an unhealthy mindset.

(Also hi! I didn’t realize I’d stopped following you, but I fixed that! :3 )

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Some “inspiration” from Spark People…

"When you’re tough on yourself, life will be infinitely easier."

Um… WHAT?! What the fuck is that supposed to mean?

I’m sorry, but I spent an entire semester in therapy specifically because I was so tough on myself. What the hell kind of inspiration is that supposed to be? The “run yourself into the ground so you can be skinny and ‘healthy’” type inspiration? The kind that inspires eating disorders and anxiety and depression in people who never feel like they’re good enough because they’re always tough on themselves?

Now look, I’m all for holding yourself to a high standard, but I feel like shit like this makes people feel inadequate for listening to their bodies and trying to take care of themselves. It was this kind of mindset that led to my life falling apart by my sophomore year of college.

I know this is random, but sometimes I just feel the need to point out the idiocy in fitspo, health, and weight loss communities. I can’t stand this kind of talk, the kind that completely forgets things like self-care, mental health, and simply listening to your bodies needs.

Am I overthinking this? What are your thoughts?

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